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Comment on Honesty Amidst Setbacks by iamnotshe

iamnotshe — Fri, 24 May 2013 13:48:52 +0000

More, heartfelt, squishy, blog hugs! I know it’s not as good as the real thing. I’m hugging you through Shalimar!

Note to Shalimar: Keep being wonderful and take good care of our Fiona! MEOW!

xoxoxoxox

Comment on Honesty Amidst Setbacks by Fiona

Fiona — Fri, 24 May 2013 13:39:24 +0000

Dear Layla,
Your comment is precious to me – THANK YOU for such lovely words and such support. It is hard to put this stuff out there in the open and be so honest about it. There is such shame and stigma about having an ED – and such ignorance even among many with ED’s themselves. I think talking about it can help with that.
I’m shocked at the rudeness of Kath’s treatment of me on her blog – I’ve only been supportive and simply didn’t agree with a couple of her points. Sad, but that’s life.
Thank you again for reading here and for your encouragement. x

Comment on Honesty Amidst Setbacks by lusciouswords

lusciouswords — Thu, 23 May 2013 13:21:38 +0000

Dear Fiona, I came over here via seeing a comment on Heffalump’s post. Reading this post left me feeling the greatest need to offer a comforting, warm, sincere, and squishy virtual hug; one that has no ulterior motive but is a gift from me to you.

I have no pithy words of wisdom because others have said so many great things already. Perhaps the best I can offer is that hug. My heart cracked at the pain and suffering you’ve endured. And you may not realize it, but you sound so strong to have endured it and come through to this point. Others have crumbled under far less, and yet, you’re here. You’re opening yourself up to people here on your blog, and you’re opening yourself up with your team. That takes strength that you may not realize you have. Some days the bravest thing we do is get up and face another day.

To me, you will be that fierce Amazon, full of strength and determination, even on your lowest day. It may make you feel uncomfortable, but please understand I see you as someone rising above what you’ve endured. Step by step, minute by minute, day by day.

~ Layla

Comment on Honesty Amidst Setbacks by Sasha

Sasha — Sun, 19 May 2013 13:13:54 +0000

Ah perceptions… I cannot trust mine in the least and yet everything in me screams that what I see, feel and think are true, true, true. It is so hard to discern between the two. I wish I could believe what my team says.

Comment on Born This Way? Trigger – Self Harm talk. by Fiona

Fiona — Sat, 18 May 2013 20:14:37 +0000

absolutely – thank you for reminding me. Complicated isn’t it? But there are a lot of people malnourished despite not being underweight.

Comment on Honesty Amidst Setbacks by Fiona

Fiona — Sat, 18 May 2013 20:13:04 +0000

OH yes! And the one I have recently started with is awesome for that – more for giving me a really good example of what I too could do, she’s come through something bad herself obviously, and rebuilt her own life, and she’s healthy and balanced and helping people and healed etc… definitely a good reflection of what I’d like to be. But also, she does reflect a more true version of myself too. Our self perceptions can get so distorted. <3

Comment on Born This Way? Trigger – Self Harm talk. by mundanebrain

mundanebrain — Sat, 18 May 2013 17:44:32 +0000

Oh wait wait, people with BED and bulimia starve their bodies too! It’s about getting proper vitamins/minerals etc in combined with the rights fats/carbs/proteins etc and they don’t either. So its the exact same chicken/egg story

Comment on Honesty Amidst Setbacks by Sasha

Sasha — Sat, 18 May 2013 11:28:22 +0000

Reading what you wrote in this comment made me think that maybe our therapists are the Mirrors that we really need to be looking in to. They are reflecting back a less distorted image (inside and out) then we see of ourselves. That goodness for people like that!

Comment on Honesty Amidst Setbacks by Fiona

Fiona — Sat, 18 May 2013 08:57:20 +0000

Reading this was.. incredible. You brought me to tears, not in a bad way, Miss Pistacio. You get it. And your advice is perfect too – about making the correct choices, about having that ability, and about making the CHOICE to make those choices. Also – being aware of how we speak – another very good point. Another thing I’ve learnt recently is how much of a difference it makes to things like flashbacks from trauma – to just change our words from present tense to past. We often talk about a trauma we are remembering in present tense “He’s hurting me” instead of “He hurt me”. It does actually trigger off our flight/fight response to be using the present tense – we react as though it IS happening all over again and it just keeps the trauma response happening.
Sorry if none of that makes sense. I had a huge “aha” moment when I read your comment in my email earlier… and now I’m too sleepy to remember much more than this of what I meant to write to you!
Love and hugs <3

Comment on Honesty Amidst Setbacks by Fiona

Fiona — Sat, 18 May 2013 08:53:50 +0000

absolutely. <3